smart this Christmas
Congratulations to everyone who observed Buy Nothing Day in November.
I was particularly impressed by Hazel who takes this further and for the
last two years has had a November No Spender where she only buys essentials
like food and toiletries. I might give this a go in January when those
Christmas credit card bills start arriving!
Now we're only 3 weeks from Christmas you are probably feeling the pressure
of buying gifts and all the associated accessories like wrapping paper.
Before you rush round the shops in your lunchhour again or try to concentrate
with young kids in tow, stop and think about your shopping style.
Are you a maximiser or a satisfier?
A satisfier is someone who is happy to find a purchase or present
that is "good enough". They don't need to scour every shop on
the high street or go online to compare every available deal.
A maximiser will search high and low for the very best and even
when they find it still feel they could have found something better. They
often find themself buying a second similar gift for the same person.
Psychological research has shown that satisfiers tend to be happier overall
and less stressed. I used to be a maximiser and never felt my presents
were quite good enough and kept adding gifts to compensate. This meant
overspending and feeling anxious that I hadn't got it right! These days
I don't get so tense. Yes I try and get a gift the person will enjoy but
I don't spend months shopping for it.
So before you hit the shops this month - try the following
- Set an
overall affordable budget and then list everyone you have to buy gifts
- By the
side of each person's name brainstorm ideas for gifts - if you come
up blank then phone and ask. Don't be bashful about giving them an idea
of what you want to spend.
- Take this
list with you when you shop.
surprises are fun at Christmas but beware all the tat they put next
to the till to tempt you.
- Once you've
completed each person's gift - cross their name off and don't be tempted
to buy just one more thing!
- If you
find yourself buying more gifts for yourself than for others, you're
not alone! It's easy to get lured into all those early sales bargains
that spring up before Christmas. But do you really need another evening
bag, scarf or computer game?
- When it
comes to edible gifts think quality over quantity particularly for adults.
Most of us don't want to still be surrounded by huge boxes of chocolates
when the New Year arrives and we think about detoxing and getting back
of Christmas like a buffet - the first pudding tastes great, the second
one less so and the third is pretty sickly. So don't overload your loved
ones with too many gifts this year!
If you know someone who has problems with getting organised check out
books page for inspiration. I've been particularly enjoying Rita
Emmett's - The Procrastinator's Handbook -
it's great at helping you understand why you continually put off those
unpalatable jobs and motivating you to change.
Another book I've been finding helpful is "The
100 simple secrets of Happy People" by psychologist David Niven.
would make a great stocking filler.
Or take a
look at my new book Hoarder
and don't forget no
needn't to be a total wash out for decluttering. But don't aim for the
moon in what can be a busy, stressful month. Get a flying start to your
New Year's decluttering with my December
to you all and let's all look forward to a happy, healthy, clutter free
Sue Kay works
with a wide range of clients to organise home offices, small businesses,
declutter before a house move, prepare your spare room for a new baby
and organise your wardrobe ready for the new season. If you're selling
your home, she can help you present it clutter-free for the market to
achieve a quick and profitable sale. For practical sympathetic help call
Sue on 020 8444 5149, email at firstname.lastname@example.org
or check out the website at www.nomoreclutter.co.uk